visiting the in-laws:
father-in-law: have you sent out thank you notes for those that attended the funeral (Daniella’s)?
me: no. (annoyed. this is NOT the first time he asked this)
me: it going to cause me a lot of pain to write them, and for what? no one talks about her anyway.
FIL: it’s the proper thing to do.
hmph! this comes from the man who would not shut up about my fat ass for years, yet he knows what’s proper….
paying for my deep conditioning last week at the hair salon:
salon owner: so did you have the baby?
me: um, no, she did not make it. (damn do I look 9 months+ pregnant?)
salon owner: i understand, i lost 11. (you read right – eleven) i had 5 losses in the first trimester and gave up, especially after everyone around me insisted on my moving on – my doctor, friends, family. just days before my first appointment with an adoption agency i found myself pregnant. eventually i went full term and had my daughter. i had to endure another 6 losses before keeping my second daughter. i’ve been pregnant 13 times in total. be strong….did you have to give birth?
me: yes. they were both too big for any other option…may i ask…what happened?
salon owner: sure…my egss were (and I quote) shit. i had to just keep trying until it worked. it wreaked havoc on me. you have to be strong. what happend to you?
me: it turned out I had a weak cervix. in my next pregnancy i will have to have a surgery done to reinforce my cervix.
salon owner: well you do that, whatever you have to! if you decide to continue on this tough path, don’t let anyone deter you like they tried with me, but above all you have stay determined to be strong. i wanted everyone one of my babies and it was difficult to lose each one.
my phone rings the other day…
caller: yes this is ms. w from the eeo.c. we received your filing. are you seeking information or looking to file a complaint?
me: looking to file a complaint, especially because i was fired after the filing.
ms. w: in addition to a pregnancy discrimination filing, do you wish to file a retaliation complaint against your former employer?
me: yes. (trying to hold in my glee)
ms. w: you can expect documents in the mail within a few days. you will need to sign them, have them notarized and supply any other supporting evidence…
so that’s what’s been going on. by the way dh was wrong, I got my period. it’s cycle day 7.